If you thought your mother-in-law was the worst, just wait until you have to hear about what this poor woman was subjected to by her husband’s mother.
“I lost my son to congenital heart disease and he did not survive the open heart surgery at the age of 1 year and 6 months,” this poor woman started out by saying.
“He was the greatest blessing I had in my life. Everyone kept telling me things will get easier with time.”
“I know that no matter how much time goes by I’ll still be missing my baby and everything sweet about him.”
She then revealed that things have never been great between the two of them, but when her son got sick, they were constantly disagreeing.
I think she’s being nice here because this mother-in-law just sounds like she was out to make her life miserable at a time when she should have just been supportive.
Her mother-in-law slammed each decision she had to make about her son’s care, inserted herself into being involved with his treatment, and had the nerve to tell her she had no clue how to handle her son being sick.
After her son sadly passed away, her mother-in-law caused a complete scene at his funeral.
“When my son passed away she came to the funeral and caused a scene by arguing with me knowing I had no energy for it,” she recalled.
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“She used the fact that everyone was there so she could say it was my fault my son was born sick and I didn’t take care of him properly, that I didn’t listen to her when suggested other ways to treat his condition.”
“And That I was the one who took their grandchild away from them and caused them heartache. She then loudly called me a bad mother I had no idea how I kept my composure and kept standing on both feet.”
“My mom and sisters responded by telling her to leave. My husband was sitting down crying.”
“She then went to tell everyone I kicked her out as a way to hurt her further and lied that I convinced my husband to ban her from visiting her grandson’s grave.”
After this all happened, her husband emailed his family stating he would be breaking ties with his mother due to her unacceptable behavior.
Incredulously, her husband’s whole family berated him for his decision and called him selfish for it.
“We haven’t seen his mom in 1 year and 8 months. I’m now 3 months pregnant. No one knew only my sister-in-law (brother-in-law’s wife) but word got out,” she then said.
“Though we told her not to say anything. A week later I had family members saying I was invited to a dinner hosted by mother-in-law so she could both apologize in front of the whole family and settle this issue before the baby’s born.”
“They said mother-in-law was regretful and offered to financially provide for her grandbaby and they want to see that.”
She refused to go to the dinner, and her husband shockingly would like her to attend it.
Her husband’s grandparents ended up calling her and saying they know she has a great heart and is forgiving and everything should basically be water under the bridge.
She replied back by insisting she will never sit at the same table as the person who called her a terrible mom at her own son’s funeral. Can you really blame her?
Everyone is trying to make this woman feel bad for refusing to go, but she still doesn’t want to.
Here’s what the internet had to say.
“I work in nursing in ICU and I see people like your MIL often.”
“You were done so dirty, and NO ONE, ABSOLUTELY NO ONE will ever understand what you and your husband went through and the kind of horrific choices you had to make.”
“People like to think modern medicine can cure anything and it’s just not true. Treatments can be ugly, invasive, and even lethal, and I would never blame you for a second for trying anything possible to keep your baby in this world.”
“I also wouldn’t blame you for a second if you decided NOT to go through with some of these harsh treatments.”
“There is no right answer in these situations, only you get to decide.”
“I’m so, so sorry for your loss and that you had to go through that. Maybe I’m biased because I see people like you at work making decisions no one should ever have to make while getting yelled at by other family who won’t even come to visit the…patient (easy to throw stones when you don’t have to make such heavy decisions).”
“You are so within your rights to never forgive that woman. I hope the best for your current pregnancy and I’m sure this little light will help remind you and your husband what familial love really is.”
“I can only speak for myself, but I would never be in a room with this woman again, and any suggestion by my husband that I should would be grounds for divorce.”
“Even if that paradoxically meant she would get more time with the new baby than otherwise. What she did is unforgivable, even before the funeral.”
“Truly, literally unforgivable. Even if she is genuinely sorry. Which she is not. The timing of this is not a coincidence. She’s ready to apologize so she can start again with the new baby.”
“Agreed. MIL is a despicable monster. Conveniently wants to make a grand apology in front of everyone so she can get access to the new baby.”
“Forgiveness is not a word you can use to manipulate people. Forgiveness is not a concept you should let abusive people wield to get their way. Not everyone deserves forgiveness.”
“She literally only sees you as a living incubator. Please ask your husband to be on your side, or go to therapy. She assaulted you at your child’s funeral, she would be beyond dead to me.”
You can read her original post on Reddit here.