A pregnant woman in her 20s says her boyfriend (also in his 20s) still plays with toys and it really bothers her.
So, she donated all of his toys without asking him so she could make room for their baby on the way, and the internet is telling her she has no heart for what she did to him.
“My boyfriend has always called himself “A Kid at Heart”. He collects toys, from quite a few different series. Wresting, TMNT, X Men, anime, etc.,” she started out by saying.
“We’re in our 20’s. But they aren’t for collecting purposes, they’re all out of the box. And…He plays with them.”
“Whenever he thinks I’m asleep, I can hear him mimicking the voices of the characters or doing commentary and I’ll peak in the room and see him actually playing with them.”
They live in a smaller apartment together, and her boyfriend has one of the rooms set aside just for his toys.
He never plays with his toys outside of the room, and when he returns from work every day, he goes straight to his room to play with his toys.
He also can’t stop ordering new ones, and packages come basically twice a week for him.
Despite his time-consuming hobby, his girlfriend says he does always spend time with her as well, so this isn’t a matter of her feeling neglected.
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“I thought it was cute and endearing at first. But we’ve got a baby on the way. And my friends are laughing at me,” she continued.
Her friends tell her it’s like she is dating a 12-year-old boy and not a man in his 20s.
“With the baby, I want to use that room for something like a nursery. I politely asked him how he’d feel about getting rid of them, but he said no,” she explained.
“I said something about giving them to charity but he said no again. I brought up that it could give us a lot of extra money if we sold them but he still denied it.”
“I asked about the baby but he said we’ll just budget it out like we always do. How he’ll spend less on figures, but selling his collection is out of the question.”
“I told him that they could make some other kid, a less fortunate kid, happy.”
She then noted her friends have only continued to tease her about her boyfriend playing with toys, and they also tell him that it’s time to “grow up”.
She also said “word got to his father” but it sounds like she was the one to take it upon herself to tell her future father-in-law about his son’s hobby.
Her boyfriend had disclosed to her that his dad would not allow him to buy toys as soon as he hit 12-years-old, so after he moved out of the house he felt like he was finally free to buy any figurine he felt like having.
“I showed his dad pictures of the toy room and he was shocked. He got mad and said we’re stopping that right now,” she wrote.
Her boyfriend’s dad told her he was going to help her force him to grow up. So, while her boyfriend was sleeping, his dad came to their apartment.
“He grabbed a big trash bag and started just grabbing handfuls and putting them inside. When he was almost done, I told my boyfriend what was going on and that it was for his own good.”
“He ran out and saw the room was empty and his dad with 2 big trash bags, leaving with them. He tried taking the bag and begging him to quit but he didn’t.”
“His dad said, “It’s time to grow up!”. He started crying and sat down.”
Her boyfriend was so upset, and she says his dad agreed with her over everything.
“He was sobbing, his dad put them in his car and left. He said he’s tossing them in the trash. I told my bf I was sorry but it had to be done. To think about the baby. But then he yelled at me, about how he could throw stuff I collect away.”
“He didn’t actually throw them out, just a bluff. It was actually all donated to a thrift store. Was this truly wrong of me?”
Here’s what the internet had to say.
“Pretty sure you’re about to be a single parent.”
“Hopefully the poor guy will find someone who will appreciate him and accept his hobby.”
“You don’t care about anyone except yourself and it shows. I hope he leaves you, he deserves better.”
“You don’t just throw away someone’s belongings. I didn’t realize playing with toys had an age limit?”
“I’m 25 years old and still play with lightsabers. And in a few years, I’m sure your child would have loved playing toys with their dad.”
“You didn’t “make” him give away his collection. You are a coward, who went behind his back got his father involved and waited until he was asleep to effectively steal something that clearly mattered a lot to him.”
“Because your friends were teasing you? Are they part of this relationship? You have a baby on the way which I get, but you didn’t even give the poor guy a chance to adjust or make necessary changes.”
“…I would dump someone who did that to me and I don’t even collect anything.”
You can read the rest of what the internet had to say to her here.
